This quote has been part of frequent conversations in our home recently. My oldest is super interested in all types of rankings, numbers, who's the best at..., who would be the best if there was a best, who might be the best at a future time. And it really is great. I love the conversations, and I know it's part of 'boyhood development.' Although, I did need to refresh myself a bit. It was my second round reading this book, but I still found new insights from when I first read it five years ago.
The book gives a great synopsis behind the development of a boy - mentally, physically, socially and emotionally. I actually appreciate how it is segmented into specific ages/stages. While it's doesn't pigeon hole a parent into rules to follow, it does offer great ideas for understanding where they are and for creating conversations.
Which brings me back to comparisons. As much as I'm happy he's simply being a 'boy' in the fun of rankings and writing top ten lists, I want him to also value deeply the joy behind simply...being. Not a number, not a club, not a stat, but a child of God worth every bit as much as the other children of God we all are.
Knowing that he's in this 'phase' helps me to approach these topics a little softer. He's at no fault for wanting to know who the best basketball player was of all time, but helping him see past numbers and comparisons and feel inner joy.
And, as it always seems to happen, all of this has me thinking about my own mindset. Stepping away from comparisons - from both others and of a different version of myself - really opens the door for my mind to feel and be in the present. To be at peace with who I am today and while it's far from anything perfect, feeling the joy behind owning my mistakes and shortcomings. Loving the journey and all the ups and downs that come with it.
Because most often in life our 'best' has nothing to do with a number, but everything to do with who we truly are.
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